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Guardian Story of the Month -- Adrienne Lorenzen
Never in all my working years have I known gratification such as that dealing with the pairing of two souls. One, a guardian and comfort giver breathing new life into the other, a diminished soul. A new creation is born, endowed with the best possible quality of life until the end of that life.
I have had the privilege of nurturing three such individuals entrusted to my care, through many joys and trials, to ultimate closure. There is a nostalgia for me, a symphony composed of these lives that I affected, a humbling experience for me and one that taught me much about life not readily apparent nor apprehended.
There is a single, outstanding treasure gleaned from each life, a precious jewel of experience that will sustain me in my love for them all the days of my life. I couldn't have written any script comparable. Yet together, we created and acted out our own story. We painted a picture, produced the plot, molded and shaped it, wove in the threads of a past life, transformed and elevated it to a star performance where the lead player was none other than the person I was directing. A guardian is a shield, always faithful, always dedicated to elevating the person being cared for to the best scenario this life can provide.
There is a synergy between the head and heart. Neither is complete without the other. The art of care giving requires a balance of the two and works in concert one with the other. There is a delicate balance in this equation. The training of a guardian is to differentiate between the two. The head is the guardian of the heart and tempers the decisions necessary to fulfill the goals. Every case study is unique and there are ground rules common to each. I find challenge in both, for one cannot succeed without the other.
What follows are some of my favorite ingredients comprising the consummate care giver, the guardian, born to serve.
. To embrace the moment of an imperfect situation. At times to love the unlovable.
. To unselfishly and freely give all that you can be, your skills and excellent training to the shaping of the best outcome possible.
. To maintain a level of comfort and quality of life for the precious soul entrusted to you.
. To persist in finding resolution when it appears there is none.
. To diligently monitor peripheral care, knowing you have the authority to correct that which is inappropriate.
. To be flexible when compromise is a reasonable solution towards an equitable outcome.
. To respect, have compassion, empathy, understanding, patience and hope toward another's state of being.
. To communicate, at whatever level of cognitive ability you encounter, always sensitive and supportive of each interaction.
. To be a good listener, to interject yourself into a mindset different from your own.
. To make your charge feel loved and safe countering the specter of loneliness.
It must be noted that none of these profound life experiences would be possible for me without the support, love, caring, professional monitoring, education, fellowship of other guardians, appreciation and recognition from VGOO, my family.
In conclusion, may I loosely paraphrase a famous quote from JFK....Ask not what the world of care giving can do for you. Ask what you, the care giver, can do for the world of the needy.